[Hidden-tech] safe surfing tips

[Robert Heller]

At Mon, 9 Nov 2009 16:52:21 -0500 "Maria Korolov (Trombly)" <maria at tromblyltd.com> wrote:

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> Keep in mind that a lot of the scaremongering is way overblown.
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> Most kids are hurt by relatives or other people close to them. Most rapes of
> children are statutory -- cases where the boyfriend is only slightly older
> than the victim, and the relationship is otherwise consensual.
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> Cases of stranger rape are tiny -- and cases where the initial contact is
> made over the internet are smaller still.
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There was a radio piece some years back where the commentator painted
this thought picture: a playground full of kids playing on bikes,
skateboards, and rollerskates/blades (NONE with any protective gear),
and a crowd of parents, all facing out, watching for pedaphiles.  The
point: the kids were in far more danger of falling and breaking bones
(including skulls) than any possible threat from pedaphiles.

> Most arrests of criminals happen because of law enforcement officers posing
> as children actively seeking contact. For example, in chat rooms devoted to
> sex, where the officer makes provocative comments designed to draw attention
> -- not by harmless Facebook posts. In real life, this is equivalent to going
> out to a truck stop in the middle of the night in fishnet stockings. Which
> some teenagers do, in fact, do.
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> Here's a recent study on the subject:
> http://www.unh.edu/ccrc/pdf/Am%20Psy%202-08.pdf
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> A great place to get statistics is the Crimes Against Children Research
> center:
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> http://www.unh.edu/ccrc/internet-crimes/factsheet_1in7.html
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> Some great advice for how to talk about Internet dangers:
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> http://www.unh.edu/ccrc/internet-crimes/safety_ed.html
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> -- Maria
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> Maria Korolov
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> Editor & publisher, Hypergrid Business (hypergridbusiness.com)
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> On Mon, Nov 9, 2009 at 4:41 PM, Daniel Lieberman <
> lieberman.daniel52 at gmail.com> wrote:
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> > I hope no one takes offense, because none is meant, and I would never
> > presume to tell anyone how to care for their children; but I've often said
> > what Maria is saying. It's almost inconceivable and incomprehensible (by
> > today's standards) that any of us survived our childhoods. I grew up in New
> > Jersey in the fifties and sixties and rode everywhere on my bicycle. We
> > didn't wear any helmets, either. I started going into NYC by myself at the
> > ripe old age of twelve. For example, I went to the 1964 World's Fair on my
> > own. Very different to today's environment.
> >
> >
> > Best regards,
> >
> > Daniel http://www.google.com/profiles/lieberman.daniel52
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> > On Mon, Nov 9, 2009 at 4:15 PM, Tom Adams- Reelife Productions <
> > tomadams at gmail.com> wrote:
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> >> Maria,
> >> I hear ya and agree with a lot of what you wrote. HOWEVER, the big
> >> difference is that when we were kids, nothin was just "a click away"... at
> >> least you had to ride your bike to get there.
> >>
> >> (your kids sound older than my 10 & 7 yr olds too)
> >>
> >> Regards,
> >>
> >> Tom Adams
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> >> On Nov 9, 2009, at 3:26 PM, "Maria Korolov (Trombly)" <
> >> maria at tromblyltd.com> wrote:
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> >> I've got the opposite problem with my kids. They're steadily training me
> >> to be technically incompetent. I'm having trouble turning on the TV, even,
> >> with all the stuff they've got connected to it.
> >>
> >> I've given up trying to monitor their computer use (except in terms of the
> >> amount of time they spend online). To start with, my daughter runs Linux on
> >> her laptop. I don't even know how to use Linux. In fact, she does all the
> >> tech support for the household. If I were to install any kind of monitoring
> >> program -- first, she would be the one I would ask to install it. Second,
> >> she would laugh in my face. Third, she'd humor me, then disable it the
> >> minute I looked away.
> >>
> >> However, since I'm the one who has to drive both of them anywhere, it's
> >> very unlikely that they'll make a date with strangers without me knowing
> >> about it.
> >>
> >> In fact, they're both too young to even ride their bikes on main streets.
> >> So I'm safe for a little while. :-)
> >>
> >> Now, when *I* was their age, I rode my bike everywhere, or took public
> >> transport, and my parents never had a clue where I was. As long as I was
> >> home for dinner, they were happy. They didn't know about any of the trouble
> >> I got into. Ha ha ha.
> >>
> >> I'm of two minds about this. On the other hand, I feel that today's kids
> >> are total wimps. I led a MUCH more dangerous life when I was their age. On
> >> the other hand, my kids are much, much safe than I and my brothers were.
> >>
> >> -- Maria
> >>
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> >> On Mon, Nov 9, 2009 at 11:22 AM, Matt Lampiasi < <mattl at florenceit.net>
> >> mattl at florenceit.net> wrote:
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> >>>  Checkout opendns, that will help some
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> >>> Tom Adams ~ Reelife Productions & Folktography wrote:
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> >>> hello, my daughter (10) is eager to start doing some major surfing on the
> >>> internet as she is a very inspired little learner...however, I certainly am
> >>> not going to let her surf without some system in place to try my darndest to
> >>> keep the nefarious stuff away for as long as possible...
> >>>
> >>>  So, I'm looking for hints about what filters or remedies are available
> >>> for safari (specifically) and if any of you have experience using any of the
> >>> third party child-safe web browsers, I'd love to hear your suggestions.
> >>>
> >>>  Thanks
> >>>
> >>>  -Tom
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