[Hidden-tech] safe surfing tips

[Maria Korolov (Trombly)]

Keep in mind that a lot of the scaremongering is way overblown.

Most kids are hurt by relatives or other people close to them. Most rapes of
children are statutory -- cases where the boyfriend is only slightly older
than the victim, and the relationship is otherwise consensual.

Cases of stranger rape are tiny -- and cases where the initial contact is
made over the internet are smaller still.

Most arrests of criminals happen because of law enforcement officers posing
as children actively seeking contact. For example, in chat rooms devoted to
sex, where the officer makes provocative comments designed to draw attention
-- not by harmless Facebook posts. In real life, this is equivalent to going
out to a truck stop in the middle of the night in fishnet stockings. Which
some teenagers do, in fact, do.

Here's a recent study on the subject:
http://www.unh.edu/ccrc/pdf/Am%20Psy%202-08.pdf

A great place to get statistics is the Crimes Against Children Research
center:

http://www.unh.edu/ccrc/internet-crimes/factsheet_1in7.html

Some great advice for how to talk about Internet dangers:

http://www.unh.edu/ccrc/internet-crimes/safety_ed.html

-- Maria


Maria Korolov
Technology columnist, Securities Industry News
Editor & publisher, Hypergrid Business (hypergridbusiness.com)
President, Trombly Ltd.
508-443-1130 | maria at tromblyltd.com


On Mon, Nov 9, 2009 at 4:41 PM, Daniel Lieberman <
lieberman.daniel52 at gmail.com> wrote:

> I hope no one takes offense, because none is meant, and I would never
> presume to tell anyone how to care for their children; but I've often said
> what Maria is saying. It's almost inconceivable and incomprehensible (by
> today's standards) that any of us survived our childhoods. I grew up in New
> Jersey in the fifties and sixties and rode everywhere on my bicycle. We
> didn't wear any helmets, either. I started going into NYC by myself at the
> ripe old age of twelve. For example, I went to the 1964 World's Fair on my
> own. Very different to today's environment.
>
>
> Best regards,
>
> Daniel http://www.google.com/profiles/lieberman.daniel52
>
>
>
> On Mon, Nov 9, 2009 at 4:15 PM, Tom Adams- Reelife Productions <
> tomadams at gmail.com> wrote:
>
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>> Maria,
>> I hear ya and agree with a lot of what you wrote. HOWEVER, the big
>> difference is that when we were kids, nothin was just "a click away"... at
>> least you had to ride your bike to get there.
>>
>> (your kids sound older than my 10 & 7 yr olds too)
>>
>> Regards,
>>
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>> On Nov 9, 2009, at 3:26 PM, "Maria Korolov (Trombly)" <
>> maria at tromblyltd.com> wrote:
>>
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>>
>> I've got the opposite problem with my kids. They're steadily training me
>> to be technically incompetent. I'm having trouble turning on the TV, even,
>> with all the stuff they've got connected to it.
>>
>> I've given up trying to monitor their computer use (except in terms of the
>> amount of time they spend online). To start with, my daughter runs Linux on
>> her laptop. I don't even know how to use Linux. In fact, she does all the
>> tech support for the household. If I were to install any kind of monitoring
>> program -- first, she would be the one I would ask to install it. Second,
>> she would laugh in my face. Third, she'd humor me, then disable it the
>> minute I looked away.
>>
>> However, since I'm the one who has to drive both of them anywhere, it's
>> very unlikely that they'll make a date with strangers without me knowing
>> about it.
>>
>> In fact, they're both too young to even ride their bikes on main streets.
>> So I'm safe for a little while. :-)
>>
>> Now, when *I* was their age, I rode my bike everywhere, or took public
>> transport, and my parents never had a clue where I was. As long as I was
>> home for dinner, they were happy. They didn't know about any of the trouble
>> I got into. Ha ha ha.
>>
>> I'm of two minds about this. On the other hand, I feel that today's kids
>> are total wimps. I led a MUCH more dangerous life when I was their age. On
>> the other hand, my kids are much, much safe than I and my brothers were.
>>
>> -- Maria
>>
>>
>> On Mon, Nov 9, 2009 at 11:22 AM, Matt Lampiasi < <mattl at florenceit.net>
>> mattl at florenceit.net> wrote:
>>
>>>    ** Be sure to fill out the survey/skills inventory in the member's
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>>>
>>>
>>>  Checkout opendns, that will help some
>>>
>>> Tom Adams ~ Reelife Productions & Folktography wrote:
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>>>
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>>>
>>> ------------------------------
>>>
>>> hello, my daughter (10) is eager to start doing some major surfing on the
>>> internet as she is a very inspired little learner...however, I certainly am
>>> not going to let her surf without some system in place to try my darndest to
>>> keep the nefarious stuff away for as long as possible...
>>>
>>>  So, I'm looking for hints about what filters or remedies are available
>>> for safari (specifically) and if any of you have experience using any of the
>>> third party child-safe web browsers, I'd love to hear your suggestions.
>>>
>>>  Thanks
>>>
>>>  -Tom
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