[Hidden-tech] seeking assist on pre-teen issues

[Ron Miller]

Also keep in mind that this too shall pass. Older kids go through stages 
just like when they were little. The kid who is arguing or pushing on 
every issue now, could be the cooperative compliant child you remember 
in 6 months. Try not to get too worked up about short-term behavioral 
issues.

You should definitely be paying close attention to what's going in your 
child's life, and keeping the lines of communication open to whatever 
extent possible.

Honestly, I've found that books rarely offer any useful real-world 
advice beyond the Gessel Institute books, which provide a developmental 
baseline and let you know that what your child is doing is really normal 
(even if it's not pleasant). By the way, their advice is hardly ever 
very good, but their studies of development are very helpful.

Good luck.

Ron

Dave Sweeney wrote:
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> Hi Amy,
> You may want to check out the book "Please Stop the Rollercoaster! How
> Parents of Teenagers Can Smooth out the Ride" by Sue Blaney. It's set up
> for parents to read a chapter at a time and then get with a group of
> parents to discuss.  The discussions usually branch out from the topic
> in the chapter, as you might guess. Each person commits to
> confidentiality for the sake of the kids' and parents' privacy to
> generate the much needed real discussion.
> 
> Have a happy New Year!
> Dave
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> Hi all,
> 
> As I noted in the Gazette article about my leaving the Hidden-Tech 
> board, I am working hard to devote more time to my daughter, Julia. 
> She's at a very difficult age where peer pressure takes the place of 
> reason, I'm afraid.
> 
> If there are others in the Hidden-Tech Network who would like to 
> create a very informal support group for parents of pre-teeners 
> please respond to the list or reach me directly at 
> az at a-zinternational.com. I'm thinking a monthly discussion group at 
> lunch or in the evening to share ideas and offer support.
> 
> It's frightening to learn how kids can hurt each other today thanks 
> to advanced technology. I know one mother in the area who took her 
> child off of instant messaging because the kid was being hounded and 
> humiliated. And we thought we had it tough!
> 
> Hope all of you are looking forward to a great holiday season. Lew is 
> doing better so thanks for those who responded about his being in the 
> hospital for two surgeries in 10 days. It's been rough on him and on 
> me given the time spent in emergency wards, admitting, etc . . . But 
> I can tell you that Mercy Medical Center is great.
> 
> Happy Holidays!
> 
> Amy Zuckerman
> Hidden-Tech Founder
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